One thing dominates your mind always that of getting your wife back. You missing her like mad. Every morning you thinking about her and the hurt you feel about not having her in your life anymore is almost tangible. Surely there must be a way…
Unfortunately too many men faced this problem. How do you re-ignite and bring back to life the relationship with the most important and unforgettable woman in your world… your wife? Truthfully, there is no easy answer…
There are several concerns that need to be addressed. Firstly, what was the reason your wife broke up and left you? Was there infidelity? Were you inattentive or just plain indifferent? Perhaps your interests were so far removed you really didn’t have anything in common, or maybe she just found you boring.
While these are all substantial obstacles, don’t get discourage, none are unconquerable. When you first met and were married there had to be some elements that drew you together and held your interest in each other. You need to rediscover those things and bring them back to life in order to grab her attention again and win back her interest.
Word of advice here… do not beg or plead with her. This is an absolute turn-off, so just don’t do it! By pleading you just make yourself look weak, powerless and pitiful, and it will do nothing but cause you to lose any negotiating leverage you may have had. Grovelling for your wife to come back will only cause her to respect you less, and in the process, your already damaged self-respect will take another hit. Again, if you are seriously interested in getting your wife back, just don’t do it.
If you are still on talking terms and communicating with your wife, try asking her to meet with you for dinner, perhaps at a favourite place where you both used to enjoy going. Wherever it is, pick a place that is relatively quiet, has nice ambience, and if you can, find a place that holds some sentimental and warm memories for both of you.
If there is something you can’t get off your conscience and feel remorseful of, than use this opportunity to be honest with her and apologize without hesitation. Then share with her your feelings and also bring out the many positive and encouraging elements of your marriage.
Getting Your Wife Back Requires That You Stay Positive And Focused…
Again, don’t get discouraged, it is paramount that you stay positive throughout the process of getting your wife back and don’t let any negativity creep into your thoughts or speech. Bring up the good times you shared and all the great aspects to your relationship. Mention that it would be such a waste to throw it all away instead of working together to overcome the negatives and move forward in re-building your marriage into what could be better and more beneficial to both of you than ever before.
Another route you could try would be to have a third-party step in. You could have a mutual acquaintance share with your wife how they thought the two of you were so good together and made such a great couple. You could also encourage your mutual friend to let your wife know that you talk about her all the time and how you really miss her. A mutual friend can, often times, play a big part in the process of getting your wife back. If this plan turns out to be productive and your wife shows signs of interest, then you should follow-up quickly and continue working with your wife to restore the relationship and save your marriage.
If you have been successful in making a positive connection, you need to take the next step. It is important that you have formulated a well-thought out reasonable plan. This would likely involve calling your wife and asking her out for a date. Take it slow and have a good time, be yourself and just enjoy the company of the woman you love. Don’t try to force things… let it happen. Spontaneity is the spice of life… or something like that. The process of getting your wife back can be new and exciting. You may even experience some of those “butterfly” feelings you did when you were first dating.
If you sense that your wife is showing interest and a desire to work things out then go ahead and ask for a reconciliation with her. Tell her that you want nothing more than to restore your marriage and have her back in your life. If her response is negative or if she is unresponsive, try to find out the reason so you can figure out what your next step will be to save your marriage.
Unless you have completely destroyed your wife’s trust and confidence in you, by doing who knows what, there will be a very good chance of getting her interested in working with you to restore your marriage. By reinforcing the positive reasons to reconcile and promising to work on, and resolve, your issues and problems, there is no reason you shouldn’t see success in getting your wife back.