A close friend related to me the distressing experiences she had after inviting a colleague to stay in her home whilst the man was attending a seminar, he had told her that the only available accommodation he had been offered was to sleep on somebody’s floor. She felt he deserved better and offered him her son’s bedroom. It resulted in a trail of destruction to her home and possessions followed by a litany of ingratitude and denial.
When my friend related the story to me I could see that she was still deeply hurt and angry by the events and I asked about her anger. “Oh, I have forgiven him” she replied “But I can’t forgive myself”. “There was always something which had made me feel uneasy about him but it didn’t make sense. As soon as I had extended the invitation something told me it was wrong. A voice was saying ‘No’. But it didn’t make sense so I ignored it I even had a vivid premonition of furnishings in my home being broken. If only I had listened to it”.
If only I had listened to it!
What exactly is our intuition and how does it work? The word ‘intuition’ comes from the Latin word ‘intueri’ which literally means “sight from within” or “insight”. It is a way of knowing, a way of sensing the truth without logic or explanations. Many will say that what goes on in our conscious mind is mostly about survival, comfort and procreation, and little else. We do not need to be particularly spiritual to be able to tune into and learn to hear our intuition.
Our intuition is the ability to get a sense, a vision or a feeling about someone or something. Intuition can communicate with us through symbols, feelings and emotions but it usually speaks to us in clear language. We all have intuition, we are all born with it. We use it as children as we do not know anything else but, as children, we are so often taught not to trust our intuition and to give our power away to others who appear ‘to know better’. So, as children, we go on our instinct or gut. But as we grow older and our rational and reasonable mind develops, we lose touch with our intuition. We ignore it, cast it aside forget about it. But, like an out-of-shape muscle, intuition can be strengthened and exercised back into shape.
These are 9 ways to know that we are listening to our intuition and not our ego:
1. We still feel a certain way despite everybody else disagreeing with it.
2. We still feel that way after sleeping on it.
3. We still feel that way when we are happy.
4. We have a sense of relief once having taken that action.
5. When our decision doesn’t make sense.
6. When the decision is not convenient.
7. When it scares us.
8. If it does not result in immediate gratifications.
9. If it is hard to justify.
Our intuition is an original, independent source of knowledge that no other source can provide. Therefore, when we listen to our intuition it connects us with a greater knowledge. That part of us which has an overview of our life, which truly loves us and will always protect us. When we hear it clearly it will be an oasis of peace in the midst of chaos, it will bring us harmony, help us to release negativity, and gives us confidence to take action and welcome changes in our life. When we experience our intuition, there is always a feeling of simplicity, clarity and peace that comes along with the knowledge, even if it’s about an outcome we don’t want. Intuition will only address the present moment; it tells us what we are dealing with and how to make the right choice. There is always a strength, a clarity and a conciseness behind our intuitive voice. When we are listening and following our intuition our bodies respond differently. We will feel calmer, stronger, there will be no tension and we will breathe more easily. No matter where our thoughts or beliefs take us, our bodies are always in the present, never in the past or ever in the future. When we understand and accept this we make ourselves open to hear our intuition rather than our fears.